{"id":1358,"date":"2018-02-16T16:28:48","date_gmt":"2018-02-16T16:28:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.writingwhiledistracted.com\/?p=1358"},"modified":"2018-02-16T16:28:48","modified_gmt":"2018-02-16T16:28:48","slug":"what-to-do-when-you-dont-know-what-to-do","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.writingwhiledistracted.com\/?p=1358","title":{"rendered":"What to do when you don\u2019t know what to do"},"content":{"rendered":"

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February is difficult for me. It is always cold, cloudy, snowy, icy, and\/or rainy. I struggle with grief as it is the anniversary month of several deaths, both family, and friends. I struggle to find my center and don\u2019t know what to do with myself. I usually cope by writing, immersing myself in a world of my own making, where no one dies unless I want them to. This year my timing is a bit off because of some health issues I had in December. So I’m at the brainstorming part of my next book but not ready to write. I haven\u2019t known what to do with my grief, anger, overwhelm, anxiety and stress. I found the answer in an article about resilience. As a parent, I want to model resilience for my kids so they will have an understanding of how to cope with life. \u00a0I tell my kids all the time. Don\u2019t worry about things you can\u2019t control. Do your best\u00a0with the things you can control.<\/span><\/p>\n

I took my own advice and I made two lists: Things I Can\u2019t Control, and a list of Things I Can Control. Here are some of my entries: I can\u2019t control the weather, other people\u2019s behavior, time, space, the events of the world, or reviewers (for the authors out there). I can control what I eat, what I read, what I listen to, what I do with my time, the way I speak with other people, how I listen, and who I spend time with.<\/span><\/p>\n

Listing calmed me, reminded me I am in control of the things that can help with the rawness that February brings. If you are as discomforted by February as I am I hope this post helps. \u00a0If you are struggling with depression or suicidal thoughts contact this hotline. Call. Text. Use online chat. Reach out.<\/span><\/p>\n

1-800-273-8255<\/span><\/p>\n

https:\/\/suicidepreventionlifeline.org<\/a><\/p>\n

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